Thursday, August 08, 2002

Rain Down On Me

Here is one amazing woman. I absolutely adore her. She takes care of me and countless other people who are lucky to have her as a friend. Through her own battles and difficulties, always has a caring word and an open ear. I hope I am lucky enough to meet her face to face one day.

Since I will be going out of town tomorrow, I wanted to make sure I got to say this first. Because that's just the way I am, hehe.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOOOOOOU
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOOOOOU
HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEAR DEBBIE
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOOOOOOU

Minds Disturbed

What can I say about you Chris? An absolutely wonderful guy. Remember how we first started chatting? You were cracking me up over at Dan's place. Somehow, in our own disturbed way, we have become good friends. No matter what people might say (ahem), I will always think of you as this sweet guy who always knows what to say to get me to smile. May you do absolutely nothing special for this here anniversary of your life (on Saturday everyone). Because I know that's just the way you like it. Oh what the heck, here I go again.

CUMPLE AŅOS FELIZ
CUMPLE AŅOS FELIZ
TE DESEA TU LINDA
CUMPLE AŅOS FELIZ

Go fill their comments with lots of good wishes and stuff. In the words of Mr Arnold Schwarzenegger - I'll be back ~Kiranator



posted @ 4:03 PM

A friend reminded me today that sometimes to enjoy a moment of happiness one needs to stop analyzing it so much. You don't know how much his words meant to me today because I was not feeling particularly good about myself. And it was not a sugar coated talk about how wonderful the world really is. Rather the words of an individual who believes life truly is what you make of it.

I wish I had the wisdom to change your day for the better but since I don't, I'll leave you with a quote from one of my favorite movies. I think it is fitting.

"...there's so much beauty in the world. Sometimes I feel like I'm seeing it all at once, and it's too much, my heart fills up like a balloon that's about to burst...and then I remember to relax, and stop trying to hold on to it, and then it flows through me like rain and I can't feel anything but gratitude for every single moment of my stupid little life..." American Beauty

Love,
Kira



posted @ 7:31 PM

...desesperadamente perdida en ti. En tu sonrisa en tu mirada. En tus labios. Perdida en tus palabras.

Estoy...

...completamente enamorada de la vida. Especialmente si en esta vida existes tu. Completamente perdida y sin esperanza de volver a ser lo que fui antes de ti.

Estoy...

...esperandote. ~Sleepless in Arizona



posted @ 12:32 AM

I'm coming over...ready?

I will have evian water - room temperature
You must be prepared to furnish telephone numbers and addresses for: physiotherapists, massages, late-night pharmacies, music stores, electronics and computer shops and restaurants.
We ask that the facility be correctly cooled or heated, whichever applicable
A fresh flower arrangement

You know you love me. ~Diva



posted @ 8:21 PM

I lived with my best friend, who happens to be a guy, through my years in college. Never did I feel uncomfortable around him. I would lie if I said there was never any sexual tension but we never crossed that line. We never even kissed. To be friends and be able to live together we had to make sure it stayed that way...just friends.

Or you're single, and people will have to interject and remind you of a little detail every now and then: "keep in mind that he/she is married, okay?". ummm...

Am I friends with married guys? Honestly? No. Online maybe but not in real life. I could say more here but I'll leave it at this: I will not put myself in a situation in which I have to make a decision on whether or not I should be in a place with someone who is already committed to someone else. Especially if I am in the very least attracted to this person. It wouldn't be fair to me and it certainly wouldn't be fair to his family. Sometimes the distance between people, who are able to communicate through the internet, can make things "comfortable". Not comfortable enough for me to step over that line and meet...even if the word "friends" is being thrown around. Does that make any sense?

So what are your boundaries in a male/female friendship? Does it hinge on your personal morals? Does it center on your "significant other's" feelings? How do you feel about your "significant other" having a friend of the opposite sex?

I've always been very sure of myself when it came to that - never minded if my boyfriend had female friends. I also never really cared if they flirted with him. I was with him because I trusted him...completely. That also meant that both him and I had to give each other our respective "places" if you know what I mean. There was never a question on whether or not I was with him and he was with me. If he had a problem with my flirty personality, which has happened, I'm not one of those "this is just the way I am" kind of person. I'm willing to adjust if the relationship calls for it. My significant other's feelings do matter.

Having said that, I must also say that I'm not babysitting anyone. When I'm not dating anyone in particular and I'm having some fun out with friends and you approach me, I'm assuming you're single as well. "Umm, excuse me, I noticed you don't have a ring on, but just in case you forgot it at home...are you married?" *rolls her eyes* I don't have a 100 question form for every guy to fill out before we can have a conversation. You have to be responsible for your actions just like I am for mine. Simple as that. If you have a girlfriend, please be with her. I don't want her calling me because of your foolishness. I can sense I might get in trouble for this one. Moving on....

How far can it go before a "line" is crossed in your case? A phone call late in the evening (which seems to be okay with "regular friends")? Grabbing lunch or dinner? A hug, peck on the cheek, or lips when greeting? Jokes or remarks about their boobs/asses/peckers? Going over their house? Asking them to dance when your dates are pooped? Discussing personal matters?

Okay, my male friends don't call me late in the evening unless they're interested in something more than a "regular friendship". For whatever reason that's just the way it has been up to now anyway.

I have no problem grabbing lunch or dinner with a friend.

Hugs and pecks on the cheek are fine. I have gotten and given the occasional, innocent kiss on the lips...definitely no tongue.

I don't joke like that.

No going over to their house unless it's a group thing.

If his date doesn't mind, I don't see anything wrong with a dance.

My best friend and I discussed personal matters even when he was dating someone else. We've been friends for over 10 years. Nothing in regards to relationships and dating though. One of those lines I guess.

So there's my two cents. Good topic so go check out Enemy of the State and see what others have to say. Ciao! ~Kira

Update: Enemy of the State is no longer in service.



posted @ 1:44 PM